Living Single

Sunday, February 13, 2022

What is being whole?

Webster’s definition: free of wound or injury

  • It shouldn’t be pursued to fulfill a void from a previous relationships
  • If you want to just “hang out” with someone, say that…
  • Leave the past behind…your carelessness, naivety, insecurities and regrets “What could I have done better? Should I have known better? (Romans 8:28 – all things work together for good because I love God
  • You are enough. (Psalm 139 – “I am fearfully and wonderfully made and created for a purpose.”)

Dating versus Courtship

  • Dating isn’t the end-all-be-all road to marriage, it’s the trial period of finding a good match for your life.
  • Courtship is having an intention to marry

 

Salvation is a must!

  • “Seeking the Kingdom first.  Everything you desire and need is found on the other side of putting God first.

Honesty must be demonstrated even when it’s challenging.

  • Tell him/her the truth, even if they doesn’t ask
  • Know what you want, what are your non-negotiables and stick to them

Ask direct questions and be explicit about what you want to know.

  • Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend?
  • Are you dating other people?  Do we all know you’re dating others?
  • What are your desires about children, job, finances on dates, etc.?

Respect each other

  • Be empathetic because we all have a story and have flaws.

Intentions should be shared up front.

  • Don’t be scared!
  • Waiting too long can be harder to break away from them or just wasted time.

Network of trusting friends, accountability partners/couples, and community are essential.

  • Open up to someone you trust
  • Ask for and welcome their feedback
  • Share your triumphs or challenges with like-minded people

Go into his/her environment to witness their character

  • Look at how s/he treat their parents
  • Pay attention to how others respond to him/her
  • Validates what s/he told you
  • Evaluate their friends and who they spend time with

S – H – A – R – I – N – G

Give yourself Four (4) Seasons to see the person you’re dating in different situations.

  • God’s timing for me is perfect. (Ecclesiatestes 3:1 – There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.)
  • Go out on dates, but ladies don’t make yourself too available.
  • Don’t be unequally yoked which means a person’s not suitable for YOU!

Assignment: use your Words to direct your life.

If you’re not ready for this type of thinking, give yourself some more time and confess

Living Single Affirmations

  1. I am created for a purpose
  2. I have hope and a future.
  3. I trust God with my singleness.
  4. I will not be anxious about my future.
  5. I am worthy; I am enough and loved by God.
  6. I am equipped and called to accomplish my God-given assignment.
  7. I am the head and not the tail.
  8. In my life, God’s glory shall be revealed.
  9. What is meant for me will not pass me by.
  10. My future marriage will honor God.

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