7 Foundations of a Healthy Marriage Pt10
Romance and Sex -B
Sunday, October 20, 2019
I. 7 Foundations of a Healthy Marriage
A. Romance
1. (Gen. 2:23-25) God created sex and has the exclusive right to set its parameters for our wellbeing.
a.Cleave – to catch by pursuit/follow hard after; glued to, stuck to; to catch by pursuit; direct reference to physical relationship; sexual love
~Affection – deep seated need of women
~Sexual love – deep seated need of men
2.(1 Pet. 3:7-8 TPT; Eph. 5:25-33 MSG) Husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it; and to love their wives as their own body.
a.Women bond through affectionate love.
~Wives #1 need is affectionate love and support.
~Non-sexual affection.
b.(1 Cor. 13:4-8 AMP) Affectionate love should be the atmosphere of marriage and the home.
~Wives need consistent affection and romantic experiences and expressions of our love.
~Studies show 80% of a wife’s need is emotional not physical.
–Hugs/kisses/non-sexual touches
-Make birthdays, anniversaries, Valentines Days, Mother’s Day special, Weekend getaways
-Cards and gifts
-Date night – have fun together!
-Do what you did to get her
-Candle- lit Dinners
-Help out with household chores
-Help out with the children
-Gentleness, kindness, politeness
-Little things count
~Tell her you love her – ALL THE TIME!
–Compliment her
-Tell her how beautiful she is.
–Tell her how sexy she is
-Talk to her, be open and honest
B. Sex
1.(Heb. 13:4 MSG) God made sex as a sacred gift for marriage between a husband and wife. Sex within marriage; with covenant partner = sanctified
Sex outside of God’s boundaries = judged
2.(1 Cor. 6:9—11, 15-20 NLT) – Flee (not condone, embrace and celebrate) sexual sin!
a.The only safe sex is sex within the confines of marriage.
3.(1 Cor. 7:1-9 AMP) Sexual advice
a.Don’t cohabit or just live together.
b.One of the purposes of marriage is to avoid fornication.
c.Spouses shouldn’t deny each other sex! Your body belongs to God and your spouse.
4.Sex should be an expression of our love for one another.
a.Sex is not love, but rather an expression of love.
b.There is sex without love; but there is no love in marriage without intimacy.
5.Sex brings about physical, emotional, and spiritual bonding (one flesh/cleave).
a.Sex is very intimate, private and personal.
6.Sexual love is how we give ourselves over to our spouse.
a.Sex is not just for procreation.
b. Sex is for pleasure.
~(Prov. 5:15-20 AMP)
[Pastor Lee Stokes]