How to Find a Christian Spouse Part 1
How to Find a Christian Spouse
Sunday, February 2, 2025
I.How to Find a Christian Spouse
A. A Biblical Foundation for Christian Singleness
1. The Bible provides instruction for Christian singleness.
a. A Kingdom Single is a Christian single man or woman who is committed to live out their wholeness, completeness and uniqueness under the ruler-ship of God. (Single means whole, complete and unique)
- No one should ever marry until he/she is whole and complete in his/her individuality and uniqueness. (spiritually, emotionally, physically and financially stable)
- (1 Cor. 7:24, 27 both AMPC) Singleness and marriage is a calling and you don’t want to force a good thing at the wrong time. (ref. Eccl. 3:1)
- (1 Cor. 7:28 AMPC) Marriage is good in the right season, and single is good in the right season. Paul emphasizes that whatever state you are in make glorifying God your primary objective.
- If you’re not whole as a single you could meet Mr/Ms Right but you may be Mr/Ms Wrong! (omelet ex.)
- Don’t waste your singleness!
b. (1 Cor. 7:7-9 AMPC) Are you called to a life of singleness like the Apostle Paul? Most aren’t!
- (1 Cor. 7:1-2 AMPC) sex and living together
c. (1 Cor. 7:39; 2 Cor. 6:14) There are only two restrictions on romantic relationships in the Bible. (1) If you are married, only be in a romantic relationship with your spouse. (2) If you are single, only pursue a romantic relationship with another Christian.
B. How to Find a Christian Spouse
1. (Matt. 7:7-11) To find a Christian spouse, seek God and be active.
a. A Christian should view the process of finding a spouse no differently than how all Christians should pursue fulfilling any good desire.
- (Matt. 6:31-33) Don’t let the desire for things overtake our desire for God.
- (Ps. 37:3-5) Delight in the Lord!
b. (Prov. 18:22) Should a woman seek for a husband?
2.Pursue your other interest and desires with people.
a. If you desire a Christian spouse, you need to put yourself around the type of people you would like to be with in marriage.
b. If your main interest and desire is to find a Christian spouse, odds are you will not be a very interesting person. Don’t be defined by your singleness.
C. Four Possible Reasons You’re Still Not Married
1.It’s just not your time to be married yet! (Eccl. 3:1)
a. You’re not necessarily doing anything wrong, it’s just not your time yet. Use this time to become whole and become your best version of you.
2.Your sin is blocking God’s blessing! (Gal. 6:7-9)
a. Marriage is a blessing from God (along with singleness), and unrepentant sin can block God’s blessings. (ref. Jas. 5:5b) “God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”
3. You’re dating too much or you’re not dating enough to find a spouse.
4. You’re setting the wrong superficial standards for a date and a mate.
a. He’s got to be (6-6-6) 6 feet tall, have 6 pack abs, and make a 6 figure income. She’s got to have a perfect body, beautiful face, no kids, etc.
b. The most important attributes in marriage are character, commitment, morals, ethics
[Pastor Lee Stokes]