4 Foundational Laws of Marriage

Wednesday, March 23, 2022

I. 4 Foundational Laws of Marriage

A.The Laws of God

1.(Jos. 1:8 NIV) Everything God creates is made to succeed. But all things operate by laws and principles and the Bible is the instruction manual for how to live by them.

a. God’s Word is law like the laws that govern gravity, aerodynamics and electricity; only more sure and reliable. They are immutable, indiscriminate and infallible.

b. (Rom. 8:2; Rom. 3:27)

~(Prov. 16:11 AMP)

~(ref. Matt. 7:24-27; 24:35)

B.(Gen. 2:24-25 KJV; ref. Eph. 5:31) 4 Foundational Laws of Marriage

1. The Law of Priority – (Gen. 2:24a) “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother…”

a. Reprioritization of relationships

b. Marriage only works in 1st place

c. Legitimate jealousy – (Exo. 34:14 NLT)

d. How to establish and maintain the right priorities in marriage.

~Priority has to be proven in real terms and not just words.

-Sacrifice – what will you give up for me?

-Time – the commodity of relationships

-Energy – effort in the relationship

-Attitude – “I want to be with you.”

~You constantly have to protect your marriage from good things out of priority.


2. The Law of Pursuit – (Gen. 2:24b) “…and shall cleave unto his wife…”

a. cleave – to adhere firmly and closely or loyally and unwaveringly; to pursue with all energy.

~Marriage is work! When you’re dating you work to get them, but often take them for granted when we get them.

b. Marriage is not two perfectly compatible people with no problems. Marriage is two very different people with a lot of incompatibility who work at it.

c. Emotions most likely will not always be there!

d. The grass is greener on the other side syndrome!

e. Marriage operates on the “manna principle.”

~Regular date times.

f. You must work at being your best for each other.

3. The Law of Possession – (Gen. 2:24c) “…and they shall be one flesh.”

a. Marriage is about sharing full ownership of everything in life: time, money, children, and bodies etc.

~Most challenging in blended families.

b. No longer independence, but interdependence.

c. Oneness not dominance!

d. (1 Cor. 7:2-5 NLT) sex in marriage

4. The Law of Purity – (Gen. 2:25) “And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.”

a. Transparency in everything! Nakedness without shame!

b. Never shaming each other but feeling safe about being transparent about everything.

c. After Adam/Eve sinned they put on fig leaves over their genitals and blamed each other for their wrong.

~We must be willing to admit our wrong, repent so we can remain naked.

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