Becoming a Kingdom Single Part 5

Attracting and Selecting the Right Mate

Sunday, July 30, 2023

I.Becoming a Kingdom Single

A.Seeking a Spouse vs. Seeking the Lord

1. (Col. 2:10) Many singles are looking for marriage to do something for them it was never made to do – complete them. The definition of single is to be separate, unique and whole.

a. Desiring a spouse if you’re single is normal but making it the defining factor of your life will be dangerous.

2. (Prov. 18:24) I think it is better to organically make friendships while you pursue your God-given dreams, than to pursue a spouse. While you’re pursuing your God-given dreams of health, education, travel, hobbies or business you will meet people.

a. (Prov. 19:14; 18:22; Ps. 34:10) Only the Lord knows where the best person for you is, trust Him to bring you two together.

B.What Women Should Look for in a Man (Not a 6-6-6 man)

1.(Prov. 20:6 AMP) He should display faithfulness.

a. (ref. 2 Cor. 6:14-15) True faithfulness and commitment to God. (real relationship with God)

~Is there a common commitment to the kingdom of God?

~Is he teachable?

b. Faithfulness to work/career/calling.


c. Are your life goals in harmony?

2. (Prov. 19:22 AMP) loyalty, kindness, and his giving, but avoid liars.

a. Does he have self-control?

~Is he in command of his temper, emotions, his passions, behavior, money, sex drive.

C. What Men Should Look for in a Woman (she must have more than face and body) (Prov. 11:22 TPT)

1. (Prov. 31:10-31) What Christian men should look for in a woman.

a.God-fearing (character)



d. Feminine




[Pastor Lee Stokes]

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