The Single Christian & Sex 2
Wednesday, February 23, 2022
I. The Single Christian & Sex 2
A. 5 Sex Traps
#1 Choosing to date someone who is not committed to celibacy.
a. (Amos 3:3 NLT)
#2 Putting ourselves in compromising situations.
a. (Prov. 6:27-28; 22:3)
b. (Rom. 13:14)
c. Compromising situations.
Living together
Sleeping together
Traveling/vacationing together
Carrying condoms
#3 Having undefined relationships
#4 Not having accountability
a. (Jas. 5:16)
#5 No more conviction or Fear of the Lord
a. (Prov. 14:27; 8:13)
B. Should Couples Live Together Before Marriage
1. 4 out of 10 Americans think that marriage becoming OBSOLETE, and 45% of them believe it’s headed for EXTINCTION. thewire.com
a. Because many are skeptical of the institution of marriage they just move in together.
2. Statistical reasons for not living together.
a. “Couples who live together have a 46% higher chance of divorce when compared to those that don’t.” www.preachitteachit.org
b. “over 60% of couples who live together before marriage will not marry.”
c. “of the 40% that do marry 5 out of 6 will be divorced within 3 years.” skeptics.stackexchange.com
d. “Cohabiting couples report low levels of happiness, sexual exclusivity and sexual satisfaction.” www.preachitteachit.org
3. Why are these statistics so high?
a. Common reasons why people live together before marriage.
#1 Financial reasons
#2 Convenience
#3 To test compatibility
#4 Fear of divorce
b. Sociological reasons not to live together.
#1 Men view living together as a convenient way have sex & test drive the relationship.
#2 Women view moving in as the next step to marriage.
c. Spiritual reasons not to live together.
#1 (1 Cor. 7:1-2 AMP)
#2 (Rom. 12:1-2)
#3 (1 Cor. 6:18; 1 Thess. 5:22 KJV)
C. 5 Differences Between Dating & Courtship
#1 Dating is more recreational and courtship is intentional.
a. Generally speaking, in courtship both people are entering into the relationship with a sense of readiness and a desire for marriage.
b. In dating, one of both may have no desire or readiness for marriage, but simply looking to hangout or kick it…
#2 Dating can lead to confusion whereas in courtship there is always clarity.
a. In courtship it should be very clear to both people where the relationship is going and the status of the relationship.
#3 Dating rarely has accountability whereas courtship occurs within a community and often involves some trusted outside individuals giving input and accountability.
#4 Dating often follows practices of the world, whereas courtship follows principles of the word.
#5 Dating breakups can be devastating whereas in courtship breakups can be disappointing.
